By the time a woman seeks support around an unhealthy relationship, she is rarely weak. More often, she is tired, tired of second guessing her intuition, tired of carrying emotional weight that was never hers, tired of being told to “understand” behaviour that erodes her sense of self. I know this landscape intimately, as a therapist and also as an empowered woman who chooses to grow from within rather than contort herself to survive dysfunctional relating.
I founded The Sovereign Within as a bespoke private therapy consultancy for people who desire real change, especially those disentangling from toxic or narcissistic relationship dynamics. Sovereignty, to me, is not dominance or detachment. It is self leadership. It is the quiet, embodied knowing of where your boundaries are and the courage to honour them without apology.
Unhealthy relationships thrive on confusion and self doubt. Narcissistic patterns, in particular, feed on our empathy while dismissing our needs. The work, then, is not to “fix” the other person, but to stop buying the nonsense that keeps us small. Healing begins when we come back into a relationship with ourselves, our nervous system, our values, our truth.
My approach integrates evidence based therapies such as EMDR, which gently processes trauma stored in the body, alongside regulation techniques such as Yoga Nidra, a deeply restorative practice that recalibrates the nervous system and reconnects clients to inner safety. Through bespoke one to one therapy and professionally held meetings in circle, we dissolve isolation and reclaim collective wisdom. Accountability check ins and experiential training modules provide the structure needed to translate insight into lasting change, so boundaries are not just understood, but lived.
Authority, in my experience, is not about hierarchy; it is about embodiment. I don’t teach from theory alone. I guide from 18 years of clinical experience, professional training, and a deep respect for each person’s innate capacity to heal. Growth from within is not loud, but it is unmistakably powerful.
If something in these words resonates, consider this your gentle invitation to connect with me and reclaim the sovereign within you. You are not broken. You are becoming. And you do not have to do it alone. The Sovereign Within exists to support those ready to step out of survival mode and into self trust, clarity, and calm confidence, one grounded boundary at a time.
Lit Eziefula
Lit Eziefula of The Sovereign Within, has over 18 years clinical experience supporting individuals to heal from unhealthy, toxic and narcissistic relationship dynamics. She is the founder of The Sovereign Within, a bespoke private therapy consultancy rooted in self leadership, embodiment and nervous system regulation. Integrating evidence-based modalities including EMDR and Yoga Nidra, Lit supports clients to reclaim boundaries, rebuild self trust and move from survival into grounded confidence. Her work is trauma informed, relational and deeply respectful of each person’s innate capacity to heal.
She believes true authority begins with embodied self trust.
Email: lit@embodiedpsychology.co.uk
Website: www.embodiedpsychology.co.uk
